Hi! My name is Alishia and I am a KraftaholicMommy!
Today, I wanted to scratch the krafting itch I have been having. Recently, I was preparing to start a gift for someone when a “friend” made a very hurtful comment. I love making gifts for others, I don’t really care to buy gifts from a store, where’s the sentimental value in that?
I was discussing with this person what I had in mind for a gift for a relative, when she told me that I was being cheap and that my gift was going to come across as though I didn’t care about that relative, because it is handmade. Somehow in her brain my making something is more of a slap in the face than it is something heartfelt and meaningful.
I didn’t get angry until after the fact. Up until I sat down to write this, I was just hurt. I wanted to give words of comfort to anyone who makes handmade gifts and ever had to deal with someone telling them this. However, the more I have thought about the situation, the angrier I have gotten. So, for the first time ever on my site, I am typing angry. I am also typing from a place of forgiveness, which is confusing I know, but I’m that kind of complicated person feeling all sorts of feelings all at once. Just say a prayer for my husband…haha.
I wanted to tell her that she hurt my feelings and that I couldn’t believe a person could hold that thought, but I didn’t. It was one of those rare times that I didn’t just blab off the first thing that popped in my head. Instead, I just hung up the phone. I ended the conversation abruptly. I did this because I didn’t want something to be said by me that would cause her any hurt feelings. At the same token, I know that I am the kind of person that needs a moment before addressing certain hot button issues. My giving a gift directly from my heart and that being bashed by someone, is definitely one of my hot button issues.
What I want to tell my fellow kraftaholics is don’t worry about people like that. I wouldn’t even give them the satisfaction of knowing that they got to you. You don’t want to do what I did and throw gas on the fire. I admit that just hanging up on her may not have been the smoothest of ways to handle the situation, so I’m not even going to attempt to justify it. However, I am going to make fun of the situation because that is how I cope with anger.
Top However Many Ways to Respond to Krafting Haters
“You are cheap if you make gifts rather than buy them.”
Answers that are acceptable for angry and bitter Karen here…
“You realize most krafts are far more expansive than a cheap store bought card and non personalized gift card right?
Or my personal favorite:
“Shut your pie hole and stay in your lane Karen…I’m about to get all the sentimental feels in this place!!!”
“It’s trashy to make gifts.”
Karen finding herself in a new hole requires new responses.
“I am sorry you feel that way Karen, Bless your heart, I’ll be praying for ya.”
Answer that I would probably say right before apologizing…
“Yet your attitude isn’t considered trashy, Karen? It’s trash day, go get in that dumpster.”
Karen apparently can’t help but blab that blabby trash…
“How about just skip giving a gift if you have to make it.”
Answer that would probably go better
“Alright Karen, thank you for sharing your opinion.”
Answer that I am more than happy to give
“Okay, Karen. Maybe you should just keep your gaping hole you call a mouth shut and let me do my awesomeness, that is clearly NOT for you!”
While all of these scenarios are very conducive to inciting anger beyond belief, we should probably refrain from using the really funny, yet wrong comebacks. Most of the time, statements like these are made by people who don’t know the actual work involved in creating such gifts. A lot of times, they don’t know that you have put in about thirty hours on that beautiful blanket that you put each and every stitch into by hand. They don’t realize that you took the time to score, cut, and stamp those card stocks to create a beautiful card that could not be replicated by a machine. You have taken your time to consider the favorite colors, flowers, or designs of the recipient. You have put a lot of effort and thought into every single aspect of that gift.
While we know these things, we have to keep in mind that not everyone will know these things. I have people in my life that hold the view that my giving handmade gifts is cheap, but I don’t let that bother me as much as I would in the past. Why? Because they aren’t what makes my world go round. I know that for a few of those people, they prefer store bought items, because they like to return what they are given. Do I agree with that way of being? Absolutely not, but that is on them, not me. My giving handmade items, will continue.
I hope that I could at least make my fellow Krafters laugh today. I will be sharing some new recipes tomorrow and of course Christian Sunday comes back on Sunday!
Thank you so much for stopping by today, I hope you enjoyed today’s post! If you did, please let me know by giving this a like, comment, and share so others can join the fun as well! Until next time!
I now have a P.O. Box feel free to send me cards, if you include the stamp, I will make you a card and send it back to you as well! You do not have to send me anything, I have been asked a lot to do so, I will also be sharing the cards and packages that I receive from you all on all of my social media, including this site! So, if you have a website or you have a business, I will happily shout you out! Thank you all so much!!
P.O. Box 608
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