Hi! My name is Alishia and I am a KraftaholicMommy!
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Maintaining a level head and holding on to your beliefs when your anger is at an all time high, has to be one of the hardest things as a Christian. I know that in my younger days, I was such an angry person, it would be no surprise that I would fly off the handle and yell, scream, or cuss my point home. The older I got and the closer I got with God, all of that seemed to change. When things come up that would normally anger me, I make a point to stop everything.
You see, when I was in my late teens, very early twenties, things would get me angry and I became a completely different person. If it was a person that angered me, I made a point to say whatever would cut them the deepest. It was not a reflection of who I was at the core, it was a reflection of my own pain and suffering. I was so angry at myself that I would lash out at people.
When I came back to God, I realized that in doing these things, I was causing far more harm than good. I was not allowing things to be processed and I was not simply talking things out like I should. I also was making a huge mistake that would for sure leave the situation in a horrible state, I wasn’t giving it to God. By asking him to guide me through tough situations, I noticed that I had become extremely slow to anger. I am now able to recognize pretty quickly in a situation that my anger is beginning to bubble up and I am able to go to a calmer place and simmer my anger, before continuing a conversation.
Another thing I have noticed by asking for God’s help,the situations are a lot easier to handle. God reminds me of my limits and he reminds me of how I would react to things before. This allows me a moment to excuse myself and collect my thoughts and allow myself to calm down. When I am in a calmer state, if the situation is something that still needs to be addressed, I am able to do so far more rationally and calmly.
I had a situation a long while back, where emotions between myself and another person were very raw. We were not seeing eye to eye and neither of us was interested in hearing out the other. I began to notice my that my train of thought was changing, I began thinking about things I could say that would hurt this person. As soon as I took notice of this, I made a point to excuse myself. I told them that I could see that we weren’t going to be getting anywhere, anytime soon in this conversation if we didn’t take a moment to breath. At first the person was so upset my the conversation they wanted to keep arguing, after telling them that I was really starting to feel upset and that I needed a moment, they realized what I was trying to say and agreed to a moment of thought.
When we had both calmed down, we realized that the situation didn’t even need to be brought up again, because of some other facts we both neglected to see. It was an action so simple as walking away from each other for a moment that we were able to both see clearer. We also made a point to apologize to each other for our reactions and was able to have a pleasant conversation afterwards.
I have been around long enough to know that this does not always work. I know that sometimes, a certain situation is bound to bring out your worst emotions. When that happens, you should ask yourself, how Jesus would handle that situation. Ask yourself if God is letting you know that you should avoid something altogether. Ask God for guidance and knowledge for a solution for the situation. Sometimes his answer is to just leave it alone, at which point, please follow that command.
A lot of times, when we ask God for guidance, he shows us exactly how a situation can play out. It’s a little, quiet voice in your head that tells you that you should say this, or do that. You’ll always know it is God sending the Holy Spirit, by the calmness that it brings.
I hope this helps someone. I also hope that you enjoyed today’s post. If you did, feel free to give this a like, comment, and share so others can join as well. Until next time,